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The Privilege of Motherhood

May 10, 2020

1 Peter 3:1-6

The Privilege of MotherhoodThe Privilege of Motherhood
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The Privilege of Motherhood


1 Peter 3:1-6

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.  NKJV

Intro: Today we want to honor mothers.  We all have stories we can tell about our Mom’s, some funny, some not so, but one thing for sure we are all impacted by our parents.  Moms just seem to dominate our thinking and certainly our families and for a good reason.  Moms have a special way about them; they are certainly different from dads and show it in many ways.

In Mission, British Columbia, a fellow by the name of Ike tells the story about his Grandpa's hen house which burned to the ground one day. Ike arrived just in time to help put out the last of the fire. As he and his grandfather sorted through the wreckage, they came upon one hen lying dead near what had been the door of the hen house. Her top feathers were singed brown by the fire's heat, her neck limp. Ike bent down to pick up the dead hen. As he did the hen's four chicks came scurrying out from beneath her burnt body. The chicks survived because they were insulated by the shelter of the hen's wings. This is a touching example of how Moms will go to any length to protect their young.

Years ago, a young mother was making her way across the hills of South Wales, carrying her tiny baby in her arms, when she was overtaken by a blinding blizzard. She never reached her destination and when the blizzard ended her body was found by searchers beneath a mound of snow. But they discovered that before her death, she had taken off all her outer clothing and wrapped it about her baby. When they unwrapped the child, to their great surprise and joy, they found he was alive and well. She had mounded her body over his and gave her life for her child, proving the depths of her mother love. Years later that child, David Lloyd George, grown to manhood, became prime minister of Great Britain, and, without doubt, one of England's greatest statesmen.

There have been many examples of Godly women in history, one such woman was Susannah Wesley, the mother of the famous preacher John Wesley.  Susannah was very well known for several reasons; one reason she had a lot of children (I believe 17), but she was also known for having godly children.

Susannah Wesley's Rules for Raising Children:

1. Subdue self-will in a child and thus work together with God to save his soul.

2. Teach him to pray as soon as he can speak.

3. Give him nothing he cries for and only what is good for him if he asks for it politely.

4. To prevent lying, punish no fault which is freely confessed, but never allow a rebellious, sinful act to go unnoticed.

5. Commend and reward good behavior.

6. Strictly observe all promises you have make to your child.

Susannah Wesley

I have asked myself this question; “what makes one person respond one way to life’s challenges and another person totally different?  I have come to the conclusion it is based upon the person’s understanding of Scripture and their willingness to obey it. I would like to share with you what I believe is the key for any women to become the person she would like to be and what others would find as honorable and desirable in any women.

I. Your Conduct

I Pet 3:1, “Wives, likewise, be in submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste (faithful) conduct accompanied by fear.”

  • 1. The relationship between a husband and wife is critical for the overall well- being of the family. Marriage is not a competition, but a team effort.

  • 2. Children see and understand what is happening in the home between parents.  When there is constant battling and hostility it sends the wrong message to the  children about the home, family and marriage.

  • 3. Here God is calling women to understand the role they are to play. Ladies, God  has put in you the role of helper, you are to be actively involved in helping your  husband be all he should be. Husband and wives have different roles and  responsibilities, one is not greater than the other, both are necessary for the well- being of all.

  • 4. God said that it was not good for man to be alone so He created a helper for  him, one who would come along side and be a partner in the process of bearing  children and managing God’s creation.

  • 5. The term “helper” does not infer inferior abilities or position, the word actually  means “corresponding to,” “suitable,” or “appropriate.”  You, as a women are to  correspond to the man, come along side, contribute.

  • 6. You are to help the man become all that God intended him to be. Your  position is not one that dominates and controls but assists and encourages.  We live in a world where most men will not lead (in their homes) and women will  not follow.  Isa 3:12, As for My people, children are their oppressors, and women  rule over them. NKJV

  • 7. Your conduct is a critical factor in the outcome of your relationship to your  family.  Women are to Faithfully honor the word of God by submitting to the plan  of God for the family unit.

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  • 8. This obedience will impact a husband who is unsaved or one who is simply not  following the Lord. You actually can control and have a major influence by  submission and Godly behavior. This will produce respect from your husband who  will in turn look to you for impute and point of view.

  • 9. The fruit of the Spirit described in Gal 5:22-23 is important here. God wants  your life to be filled with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,  faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Without these characteristics there will  be conflict and a battle for control.

  • 10. As you show the fruit of the Spirit others will see the power of God in your life  and this will impact them. Respect is earned by behavior, discipline, and obedience to  the word of God.

  • When Robert Ingersoll, the notorious skeptic, was in his heyday, two college students went to hear him lecture. As they walked down the street after the lecture, one said to the other, "Well, I guess he knocked the props out from under Christianity, didn't he?" The other said, "No, I don't think he did. Ingersoll did not explain my mother's life, and until he can explain my mother's life I will stand by my mother's God." James S. Hewett, Illustrations Unlimited, Tyndale, 1972, p. 381

  • It is interesting to note that Ingersoll had a preacher for a dad.  His mother is rarely mentioned in the accounts of his childhood. Something was clearly different from what Susanne Wesley and her husband did as parents.

  • 11. Ladies you need to be more concerned about being a godly woman; than  developing your skills. Your impact depends on the work of the Holy Spirit in you.   This is what Peter is talking about in our text; the most effective way to bear fruit  in your family is for you to be the women God is pleased with.

  • 12. Prov 31:10-31 gives a clear picture of women who honors the Lord.  Her  husband and children honor her, in public they praise her.  She has a great  reputation for service and commitment to her family and those she comes in  contact with.

II. Your Concern

3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward — arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel —  4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

  • 1. For most women their looks are important, and I understand that  because God  has built within each women the desire to be attractive.  It is this  factor that  attracts men and goes to the very heart of a woman.

  • 2. The real issue is not the outward appearance of any women, while this is  important; the main issue is the heart. Becoming the fruitful women God intended is tied into a personal relationship with God. Apart from that, you will never know  the peace that passes understanding or see the fruitfulness in your family that you  desire.

  • 3. Many a woman has ended up totally frustrated over failing to reach the  standards that she thought were expected by herself and everyone around her.

  • 4. Trying hard to measure up, you simply end up judging yourself for failing to be  all  you think you should be. All because most people look at life from a works  based philosophy; you are only as good as your performance.

  • 5. Without a foundation built upon God’s love and acceptance, life becomes all  about works, doing and being what others want. When you put God as your number  one priority you will discover a clear purpose, acceptance, and peace that are not  possible in any other situation.

  • 6. Being a devoted wife and mother will never bring total satisfaction and  significance. We cannot look to people and things for satisfaction and meaning  for life, it has to be found in God alone.

  • 7. When you can look to the Lord to determine what is important your life will  change.

III. Your Confidence

5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror

  • 1. All the things we are talking about revolve around your trust in God, just how  much you are willing to trust HIM.

  • 2. It is hard to let your husband be the head of the house if you do not understand  that God ordained it that way and that it is the best possible relationship.

  • 3. Your acceptance and self esteem is not built on your ability, brains, or  determination, it is built upon your decision to obey the plan that God has  put  into place.

  • 4. The problem is the fact that we do not see the end from the beginning and God  often prevents us from understanding how things are going to work out. When we  trust God we do not panic when everything seems to be going in the wrong  direction. Like the story of an unusual account of how the news of the Battle of Waterloo reached England. The report from the battle ground back in those days was first carried by sailing ship to the southern coast and then by signal flags to London. And when the report was received at Winchester, the flags on the cathedral began to spell out the message, "Wellington defeated." And then before the message could be completed, a heavy fog rolled in and with that heavy fog the gloom of a nation filled the hearts of the people. But then, when the mist began to lift, it became evident that the signals of the Winchester Cathedral had really spelled out this triumphant message. "Wellington defeated the enemy!"

  • 5. Too often we allow the future to be colored by what we understand at the moment and it keeps us from moving forward. Trust God in the midst of transition and conflict. Let go of resistance to change. Let go of panic, release yourself again into His hands. God is for you and God will see you through. Trust in him.

Conclusion: We have come to the point that our founding fathers feared a nation that does not fear God, honor God nor serve Him.  The challenge before us today is to trust God, commit our lives to his word and His service and trust Him for the results. Ladies you can have a powerful impact on the world we live in by starting in your home to be the women God has called you to be.

General Omar Bradley said, "America today is running on the momentum of a godly ancestry, and when that momentum runs down, God help America."

Bradley also said, "We have grasped the mystery of the atom and rejected the Sermon on the Mount... The world has achieved brilliance without conscience. Ours is a world of nuclear giants and ethical infants."

"It cannot be emphasized too strongly or too often that this great nation was founded not by religionists but by Christians, not on religion but on the Gospel of Jesus Christ."

- Patrick Henry

Jesus doesn't call us to be "convenient Christians", he calls us to be committed Christians who put Him first above everything else - even if that means dad, mom, siblings, kids, work, vacations, playtime, money, homes, friends. Jesus is saying to us as His followers, "Sit down, count your blessings and then renounce them all for me." Would you still be His disciple if you lost your job? If you lost your savings? If you lost your health? If you lost your home? If you lost your wife and kids? Job said, "Though [God] slay me, yet will I trust Him." Horatio Spafford lost all his earthly possessions in the Great Chicago fire. A short time later his wife and children were sailing to England when the ship sank and his children were lost. Immediately he went to join his wife in England. As his ship got to the spot where his children drowned he wrote these words, "When peace like a river attendeth my way. When sorrows like sea billows roll - whatever my lot thou has taught me to say, 'It is well, it is well with my soul.'"

It is this kind of Christianity Jesus is looking for ... not a convenience thing, not a faith that we turn on when we want to or when we need it! Jesus is not looking for followers. He is looking for disciples. He is looking for people who will count the cost of being His disciple who will then say, "Yes!"



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